Archive - A Lady on Fire

Anger is not the answer. I. Calibrating to Humanity The first company I ever started was with my partner who’s also a software engineer. We had spoken…

Apr 9, 2022 •

February 2022

The Fourth Dimension

If you slow down, you will get everything you want. I. When I was younger my parents would constantly compare my life to the lives of those around me…

Feb 6, 2022 •

January 2022

Managing your Psychology

What do you tell yourself when you are down? I. Finished is better than nothing. Expect to be disappointed by the first version of anything you create…

Jan 31, 2022 •

The Center of the Maze

Happiness is not a journey upward but a journey inward. The answers lie not at the top of a ladder but in the center of the maze. I. After years of…

Jan 23, 2022 •

Counting on Serendipity

What if, all this time, the very walls that you had built to protect yourself were the ones keeping the sunlight out of your life. I. 75 years ago, in…

Jan 16, 2022 •

November 2021

Raging Against The Machine

Small moments of quiet resolve turn into big moments of real change. I. Everyday when I wake up the most pressing emotion I feel is anger. I’m angry…

Nov 13, 2021 •

Breaking the Cycle

History repeats itself, even on small time scales. I. When you’re a kid all your emotions are purely yours. They’re not corrupted by anybody else’s…

Nov 7, 2021 •

September 2021

The Me You Can't See

A meditation on deception, truth and reality

Sep 5, 2021 •

August 2021

A free woman doesn’t owe anything to anyone. I. My parents never considered me a part of their family. Even though they were more progressive than many…

Aug 20, 2021 •

July 2021

At first it felt like dying, and then I was reborn. I. It’s raining outside. I’m sitting on the porch in a house in the mountains watching the raindrops…

Jul 24, 2021 •

June 2021

Sometimes I think that I’ve been given one little bit of luck in life and that will have to do. Everything else, I’ve had to fight so hard for. I…

Jun 2, 2021 •

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