Anger is not the answer. I. Calibrating to Humanity The first company I ever started was with my partner who’s also a software engineer. We had spoken to a longtime friend of my partner’s and he had agreed to be our first customer. About 8 months into the life of our company, we had finished building the first version of the website and were getting ready to launch it. The weekend before we were scheduled to launch, my partner received a private message from his friend. The friend said he was shocked that he was not listed as a founder on any of the official company documents. This came as a surprise to us since we had been very clear from the start that this was our company and he would be our first customer. For over half a year when we were building the product, he never said anything that would suggest otherwise. He was the sole representative of his company in price negotiations against our company, which is another reason why we were confused that he thought he was a founder of our company.
i love how emotionally intelligent, insightful, and measured your writing is. "calibrated to humanity" is such a great phrase, as well as the spontaneous combustion metaphor. and that visceral description of your shame responses - wow. your high level of embodiment & your commitment to healing shine through the words. i'm in awe of you. congrats on publishing and thank you for sharing your gifts with the world <3
I’m so happy I found such a precious article, it’s like reading a very detailed guide of what my life has been and what could be better. While I’ve had a different trauma from yours, losing my dad in a dreading way, I’ve develop those some assumptions and behaviors to cope for the loss and survive the rest of family which only pretended to do what was best for me
Beautiful and painful thoughts and insights! Somewhere in there, in a parallel life, I am with you experiencing this very similarly. I still think of myself as a late bloomer — why didn’t I realize this or that sooner? I look forward to following your writings! Just discovered you on Twitter.
I was moved and could so relate to your childhood/adult experiences. Thank you. I looked forward to reading more of your work.
i love how emotionally intelligent, insightful, and measured your writing is. "calibrated to humanity" is such a great phrase, as well as the spontaneous combustion metaphor. and that visceral description of your shame responses - wow. your high level of embodiment & your commitment to healing shine through the words. i'm in awe of you. congrats on publishing and thank you for sharing your gifts with the world <3
I’m so happy I found such a precious article, it’s like reading a very detailed guide of what my life has been and what could be better. While I’ve had a different trauma from yours, losing my dad in a dreading way, I’ve develop those some assumptions and behaviors to cope for the loss and survive the rest of family which only pretended to do what was best for me
Everything rang true to me. Thank you so much for writing this
Beautiful and painful thoughts and insights! Somewhere in there, in a parallel life, I am with you experiencing this very similarly. I still think of myself as a late bloomer — why didn’t I realize this or that sooner? I look forward to following your writings! Just discovered you on Twitter.
Remarkable honesty, articulation and maturity. Thank you for sharing your stories. Sending it to everyone I know.